Written by contributor, Sonia Sahota.
There are many reasons as to why relationships fail… whether it is distance, not enough effort/time given, cheating, bickering that adds up, etc. But sometimes, it simply isn’t the right time and place.
Relationships can end because you have to figure out what you want and who you are. You need time to figure yourself out. You need to know what you want in life, the little things that make you happy, giddy, sad, and even the things you do not like before you can try and understand a whole other person. Sometimes you need to travel – and find more inside, you did not know existed. Know that it is okay to take this time for yourself.
I had a conversation with an old friend from my hometown back in Connecticut who gave me advice from her personal experience. She gave me insight to a whole new perspective on relationships. She told me about her past relationship and why it failed. It took her time to figure out what the actual reason was and after months of being on her own again and learning more about herself she realized what it was. The reason was simply herself, and she was without a doubt okay and utterly satisfied with that notion.
I have uncovered a new perspective and understood that it is okay to take time. However long that may be – it is essential to take as much time as you need. 18 years old, 45 or even 65 years old.. the age is irrelevant. What is important is that you only give up a part of yourself when you truly are ready and know yourself inside and out. Loving someone comes with beauty and pain. You are giving up a part of yourself to be with someone and to let a guard down.
Just know that You have the strength to let go of your current relationship that came at the wrong point in your life. You also have the strength to keep going. It is a hurdle but just know you will find love again. You and your relationship with this significant other will be much stronger and rewarding because the relationship will soar once you have accomplished the biggest battle: Understanding yourself.
It is possible to find another person and to find that love at the right point in your life.