We always give our close friends and family the advice:
Keep your chin up. It will pass. Everything happens for a reason. Things will get better. It’s a silver lining. Tomorrow will be better. Things will turn around. It’s just money. There are other fish in the sea. It’s summer, enjoy it.
Be mindful of what you feel and why you feel it.
- Step one: Define the feeling or emotion you are feeling most. Is it anger? Is it sadness? Is it frustration? Is it confusion? It may be a combination, but focus on one at a time.
- Step two: Try to get to the root of the emotion. There are many parts to an emotion, but sometimes there are one or two root causes that made the emotion surface and bubble up. For example, if you are angry with a friend for betraying your trust, determine if it’s the friend you are angry most at, yourself, or some other piece of the situation.
- Step Three: Allow yourself to understand why you feel that emotion. Why do you feel anger towards that person or situation. Think about what you could do to prevent it in the future. Although the feeling may fester a bit, once you recognize it and are cognizant that you feel that way, it’s easier to manage it and be less controlled by it. Don’t let it control you, be mindful of it, control it.