When it comes to conversations, confrontations, relationships, professional and personal … it’s important, clutch, and courageous to look at both sides of the coin. See the situation from the other person’s POV versus just your own.
Lets take a relationship for example. You get into an argument over something big, perhaps something that makes you wonder about the power of the relationship to date, and how much it matters in your life. It may make you wonder if he or she really deserves a place in your life, and/or if you just need a break from that significant other.
There are many levels (like an onion) to a relationship. And it takes true consideration to determine if a situation is just something that can be swept under the rug, or if it’s something bigger that’s been brewing or always there.
Some people are meant to stay in our lives for certain amount of time, while others may be forever people. We won’t really know until the time comes. Or sometimes, we just know because it’s that person. Your person.
But in that situation, the one causing the rift, you have to take a moment. Step back. Sit down. Think through what that person is feeling, what they’re going through, and how they may be reacting is a cause of something deeper. Whether it be insecurity, victim mentality, just a shitty childhood, something else we don’t even know about, etc. Sometimes we just don’t know the true cause. And we have to ask. Or perhaps, we’re done asking.
Either is okay. It’s what’s right for that situation with that significant other and you.
Sometimes a pro and con list can help – sounds silly, but it will allow you to see the situation from a logical standpoint. Just remember not everything is black and white. There are shades of grey, especially in relationships.
SO…whether you decide on a break, a time out, or a true break in the relationship, take a moment to think it through first. And allow the other person to do the same.
In the end, it’s your life, and you need to keep the people close who matter, and not be afraid to let some go.
Until next time, #radiatedaily
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