Where does our confidence stem from?

Confidence. It’s a bitch ain’t it? It can either make you feel awesome or the complete opposite. You feel like you can conquer the world or the world is conquering you. It’s tough to be confident every day or every moment or for all the moments that matter. We aren’t perfect – and that’s probably a good thing. Our vulnerabilities and our lack of confidence help us realize the times that we deserve to be confident, and what abilities we really have to kick some butt.

Here are a few ways I try to build my confidence when I need it most:

  1. Exercise – If I get in a workout first thing in the morning I feel like I’ve started the day off right. It allows me to put my head on straight and feel more optimistic about myself and the day ahead.
  2. Drinking more water – I know this sounds more like a health plan but health allows your body to feel better and in turn you to feel better and more confident in yourself. When you have more water, you’re more alert and energetic and overall more productive – and in turn more confident.
  3. Putting in extra effort – When I work harder (not the minimum, not the regular, but harder) I feel better about my work. I’m proud. I’m confident that I’ve kicked a little ass.
  4. Planning things out – I am more anxious and less confident to tackle the week unless I plan it out a bit. For example I plan out my workouts, meal prep if the week calls for it, plan out what days I have free to see friends, and what work I must get done (priority list, and wish list). I even plan out when I’ll get laundry done. I know it seems silly, but it helps me to stay sane and in turn confident in what lays ahead and my ability to accomplish it.
  5. Accepting myself – I’m not perfect. I sure as hell never will be. I am not perfectly fit, I don’t have the perfect diet (I love pizza, yes I do), I work hard, but I make mistakes like every human. I’m not married, I don’t have kids, and I’m in my 30s. Yet, I’m independent, hard working, slim fit, work out regularly, have great friends, family, and furball. I know I’m a good person and frequently put my loved ones before me. I like myself, most days. I know I deserve to be proud of where I am today and how far I’ve come. I accept that and want to focus on this version of the story, because I am who I am based on my experiences and circumstances, and wouldn’t change a thing about it. That makes me a bit more confident each day.



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